Going All the Way?

Not a good idea?

No, I am not talking about first base, second base, or third base.

You know that feeling when you fall completely head over heels for someone? Those uncontrollable, spastic jerks in your muscles that get you smiling all the time, or give you butterflies? When you throw yourself at somebody. Completely.

Is it a desperate attempt to speed things up? Is it stupid? Should we play hard to get?

Older people say, 'been there done that'. They rant on about teens and their "puppy love".
Your friends say, 'slow down it's not like you're going to get married'.

But, for you, there is no sense of direction.

Is it bad to put yourself completely in the open like that, and fall in love?

Meeting each other halfway is a balanced approach. You give and recieve at the same time.
But, is it the new way of playing hard-to-get?

You love someone. You love them so much, but you aren't getting the feeling they feel as much for you . . . What to do? Back off? Pretend to be detached?

That's always the case.

I was in a long distance relationship once. In the beginning, it was incredible. I became so comfortable, I started to have expectations. But then he moved.

Long distance is all about trying. Trying really really hard to make things work out: making sure you're both staying in contact, both still love each other. Expectations I had from when he lived here - the comfort zone I set myself to - drove me absolutely fucking nuts. I was disappointed half the time, I started to try to act as if things didn't really matter, sitting back, just to have him come all the way. He had to convince me things were working and that we loved each other. He was giving way more than I was, and the terrible thing was that I was enjoying it! I'd made things hard on him on purpose. I'd put tension on what we had . . . just so he felt obliged to try his best to please me all the time.

So, tell me, do we meet each other halfway, or do we love without restraint? Is there a healthy middle ground? Throwing yourself completely out there can get you hurt, but then again, holding back could completely go against the purpose of your relationship.

Before, we lived on opposite ends. Of the world, of the relationship. Hell, he came more than halfway both physically and mentally.
That's a good man right there.

Fresh start.
I'm done with playing love games.
I'm ready for commitment.